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LIFE STAGES

Early Adolescence
Early adolescence can be an exciting time for teens and their parents. They are becoming more independent and relying less and less on their parents. Although the shift in quantity of time spent together and in control over their child’s life can lead to some strain and conflict in the parent-child relationship, it is important to remember that teenagers still enjoy high-quality interactions with their parents and ultimately desire close relationships with them. Although young teens strive for autonomy, parents still need to monitor their whereabouts and how they are doing and still serve as important role models for their children.
Physical Development
Pubertal development is probably the most distinctive feature of adolescence. Because most of the physical changes are almost impossible to hide, it leads to a number of social changes beyond those experienced within the body. In fact, puberty is typically seen as a multi-level (biological, psychological, social), multi-stage process that takes approximately five to six years. Puberty influences how a teen acts, feels, and thinks, with their peers, at school, and at home. While there is a broad range of when it begins and how fast it takes place for each individual, puberty usually begins in the late stages middle childhood and ends sometime in adolescence.
Social/Emotional Development
Although adolescents can sometimes act and look like young adults, their brains are still developing. This means that they can have difficulty effectively managing their emotions in the context of stressful circumstances, such as peer problems or academic difficulties. They may seem moodier and experience mood swings, but because they are striving for more independence and use their peers as their primary resource for support, they may not ask for help from their parents. Adolescents will begin to form cliques that are more rigid in terms of shared interests and values than those in middle childhood. Clique membership can undergo frequent changes as adolescents explore their identity. Friendship conflict and change can be particularly stressful during adolescence, especially on females.
Behavioral Development
An increased desire for independence may lead to rule and limit testing. This is the time that they may start to experiment with sex and drugs. Because they are focused on the here and now versus the future, it is important for parents to discuss these topics with their teens to help them think through the consequences of their actions. At the same time, teens are better able to understand, think about, and incorporate morals and values than children because of their ability to think about abstract concepts.
Personal Development
While middle childhood is about understanding strengths and weaknesses, individuals begin to really think about “who” they are in adolescence. They will actively seek out their identity and try on many hats before they decide who they are. This may or may not lead to some social, family, and emotional upheaval. For example, considering new political views could lead to conflict with family members.
While adolescence is frequently thought of as a stormy time in development, excessive stress and turmoil is not normal.
Signs that suggest that an evaluation is needed:
Significant decline in school performance
Inability to cope with problems and daily activities
Significant changes in sleeping and or eating habits
Extreme difficulties concentrating
Sexual acting out
Depression shown by sustained, prolonged negative mood and attitude, often accompanied by poor appetite, difficulty sleeping, thoughts of death
Severe mood swings
Repeated use of alcohol and/or drugs
Intense fear of becoming obese with the relationship to actual body weight, excessive dieting, throwing up, or using laxatives to lose weight
Persistent nightmares
Threats of self-harm or harm to others
Self-injury or self-destructive behavior
Frequent outbursts of anger, aggression
Repeated threats to run away
Aggressive or nonaggressive consistent violations of rights of others, opposition to authority, truancy, theft, or vandalism
Strange thoughts, beliefs, feelings, or unusual behaviors

Middle Adolescence
Adolescents are attempting to find their own identity, struggling with social interactions, and wrestling with moral issues. The primary task of an adolescent is to discover their identity separate from their family and as a member of their community.
Physical Development
Physically, middle adolescents are finished with puberty. Physical growth is slowing down for females but continues for males.
Moral Development
As middle adolescents’ capacity for abstract thought continues to grow, they have greater capacity for setting goals and more interest in moral reasoning. You might notice your adolescent pondering the meaning of life during this stage, as well as demonstrating more consistent evidence of a conscience. Middle adolescents are attempting to establish their philosophy of life and often prefer to think about ideals rather than reality.
Social/Emotional Development
Middle adolescents are intensely involved with themselves. They are working to balance having high expectations for themselves and a poor self-concept. They continue to adjust to their changing body and often worry about being normal. Adolescents in this stage are concerned about their attractiveness and may have frequently changing relationships. They will also gain a more clearly defined sexual orientation. During this stage, adolescents tend to distance themselves from their parents and continue to drive toward independence. Complaints that parents are interfering with independence are abundant. They are often driven to make friends and have a greater reliance on them. During this stage, popularity can be an important issue. Middle adolescence can be full of feelings of love and passion. Intellectual interests gain importance during this time as energy becomes directed into creative and career interests.
Behavioral Development
Often, adolescents go through a period of withdrawing from responsibilities while they are sorting out their identity. Even the most compliant children might develop into adolescents who complain or grumble about chores or rules. If adolescence isn’t successfully navigated, they experience role confusion and turmoil. As adolescents attempt to gain independence, they can pull their parents or other adults into power struggles where the need to “be right” becomes the main issue. If the adolescent is overpowered, they might feel embarrassed, inadequate, resentful, and bitter. Anxiety can emerge regarding school and academic performance.
Common reasons for seeking treatment:
Significant decline in school performance
Inability to cope with problems and daily activities
Significant changes in sleeping and or eating habits
Extreme difficulties concentrating
Sexual acting out
Depression shown by sustained, prolonged negative mood and attitude, often accompanied by poor appetite, difficulty sleeping, thoughts of death
Severe mood swings
Repeated use of alcohol and/or drugs
Intense fear of becoming obese with the relationship to actual body weight, excessive dieting, throwing up, or using laxatives to lose weight
Persistent nightmares

Late Adolescence
Adolescents are attempting to find their own identity, struggling with social interactions, and wrestling with moral issues. The primary task of an adolescent is to discover their identity separate from their family and as a member of their community.
Physical Development
During this stage, young women are typically fully developed. Young men continue to gain height, weight, muscle mass, and body hair. They are gaining the ability to think through their ideas and articulate their thoughts.
Moral/Behavioral Development
During late adolescence, the ability to make independent decisions is well developed. You may also notice a more developed sense of humor. They are far more able to delay gratification. They spend time examining their inner experiences and often have an increased concern for their futures. They feel greater independence, self-reliance, pride in their work, and they have more defined work habits.
Social/Emotional Development
People in late adolescence have a greater ability to regulate their own self-esteem. Just as in earlier stages, they have a continued interest in their moral reasoning. By late adolescence, they are gaining a firmer sense of their identity. Their emotional stability should increase at this time. Late adolescents have increased concern for others. Peer relationships remain important during this stage. More serious relationships likely develop at this time as late adolescents attempt to find mutually satisfying relationships. Social and cultural traditions regain some of their importance. Late adolescents who are not successful during this stage sometimes feel isolated and distance themselves from others.
Common reasons for seeking treatment:
Significant decline in school performance
Inability to cope with problems and daily activities
Significant changes in sleeping and/or eating habits
Extreme difficulties concentrating
Sexual acting out
Depression shown by sustained, prolonged negative mood and attitude, often accompanied by poor appetite, difficulty sleeping, thoughts of death
Severe mood swings
Strong worries that get in the way of daily life such as at school or with peers
Repeated use of alcohol and/or drugs
Intense fear of becoming obese with the relationship to actual body weight, excessive dieting, throwing up, or using laxatives to lose weight
Persistent nightmares
Threats of self-harm or harm to others
Self-injury or self-destructive behavior
Frequent outbursts of anger, aggression
Repeated threats to run away
Aggressive or nonaggressive consistent violations of rights of others, opposition to authority, truancy, theft, or vandalism
Strange thoughts, beliefs, feelings, or unusual behaviors
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